There are many different tricks and tips when it comes to living a happy lifestyle. However, many of these things may be much more complicated than they actually need to be.

Something that comes as a surprise to many people is the fact that the biggest secret when it comes to a happy lifestyle is developing the ability to say the word no. I understand that it can be difficult at times, especially to those with large hearts but it is important and you deserve to be at the top of your priority list.

It’s funny in a way that one simple word can be so difficult to say at times. However, somehow we end being roped into things we don’t want to do. Needless to say, it’s hard to create a happy lifestyle when you are constantly doing things you would rather not be doing.

A healthy balance is important. After all, we don’t want to go too far in the other direction and become a selfish person.

The key to achieving this balancing is developing some healthy boundaries in your life. Believe it or not, this is actually a lot simpler than it may seem.

The best place to start would be to always keep in mind the fact that it’s not always what you say but rather how you say it. Therefore, it’s important to think about how you are going to steer clear of something you would rather not be involved in without hurting another person’s feelings.

As well, it’s important that we don’t allow ourselves to be roped in by guilt. This will probably come as no shock but there are people who thrive off of making others feel bad for their own gain. If you experience situations such as these, try as best as you can to remain polite but hold your ground.

Some people have a hard time accepting the word no and some may even become rude or a bit hostile when they don’t get their way. When it comes to situations such as these, it is important that you be the bigger person but it is also important that you don’t allow it to influence your decision.

If things ever do become a little uneasy when expressing the fact that you don’t want to do something, a great diffuser for the situation would be for you to use I statements. When we use these statements we are able to get our point across in a much more effective manner than “you” statements.

It may not always be easy to say no but it’s important to remember that time keeps ticking and we only get one life. Therefore, we should do everything we can to make sure we get the most out of our time. It’s time you start living life on your terms and doing things that make you happy.

Think of all the things you could do with your life if you had the ability to put yourself first and occasionally tell others the word no!

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