Many people spend a lot of their life trying to avoid their fears. This is understandable; after all, fear is an uncomfortable feeling that few people enjoy experiencing. While it may seem like fear is our enemy, it is actually a normal part of our lives and when used correctly, it can provide us with strength beyond limits we have ever experienced.
This strength comes from deep within and originates from our natural flight or fight response. The trick to being able to summon this strength is learning how to use your fight response instead of opting for the flight response. Believe it or not, once we learn to embrace our fear we can channel into an unstoppable force of true inner strength!
Fear – A Positive Thing to Experience
It is important that we recognize that fear can actually be a positive thing to experience. Think about it. Fear prepares us for certain situations and important events in our lives. I am sure that you have experienced at least a few things in life that made you fearful, but you overcame the fear right? Here is a perfect example, the first time riding a bike can be a scary but the rewards of learning how to ride a bike make it more than worth facing the fear. Stepping out of our comfort zones may be uncomfortable but it is vital in unlocking the best things that life has to offer.
The longer we remain inside of our comfort zones, the more comfortable and appealing they start to seem. It can even get to the point that the simple act of thinking about facing a fear of facing an unknown can paralyze a person with fear. The longer a person allows this to happen, the weaker against their fears they will become.
Those who are able to break out of their comfort zones and face fears head on receive some of the best blessings has to offer, one of which being self-worth.
Learn to Conquer and Control Your Fears
Learning how to control fear can be somewhat of a daunting task, however it is more than possible. Through perseverance and inner strength, no fear will be too big to tackle. The following are a few tips that should get you off to a good start when it comes to learning how to conquer and control your fears.
Face Your Fears One at a Time
The most efficient way of overcoming fear is through repeatedly and gradually exposing yourself to what scares you in a controlled and safe way. Throughout the exposure process, you will be able to understand the best way to fight through the fear and anxiety until it inexorably passes. With every exposure, you will feel stronger and more confident and you will be in total control. With that, your fear starts to lose the power it once had.
While it is normal to feel anxious or scared while you face your fears, you must not feel overwhelmed by those feelings. When you start to feel overwhelmed, you might want to back off for a while. If this is the case, you might need more time to learn how to effectively control your feelings of nervousness or you might feel more at ease when you work with a professional therapist.
Learn Some Relaxation Techniques
Relaxation techniques like deep breathing, muscle relaxation and meditation are the strongest antidotes to panic, fear and anxiety. By practicing them regularly, these techniques can significantly enhance your capability to control and take over the physical signs of anxiety that would make facing and overcoming your fears much less intimidating.
Challenge Your Negative Thoughts
We as humans have the natural tendency to over think a lot of things. For example, when we are fearful of something, we often times exaggerate the possible negative outcomes of facing that fear. One thing you may want to consider doing to help you avoid doing this is writing down all of your negative thoughts that come to mind when you think about facing that fear. Now go over the list, how many of these thoughts seem reasonable? Doing this will help you to realize that many of your negative thoughts are unreasonable and likely a bit exaggerated.
Once you have written your list of negative thoughts and analyzed it for a moment, go back over your list and come up with an affirmation to expel each one of these thoughts from your mind. Make sure to include times in the past when you may have faced a similar fear.
These 3 steps will surely help you a lot in developing your ability to cope with your fear. What are you still waiting for? Get started today, follow these steps and you will be glad that you did. Keep in mind, every fear you conquer provides you with another open door leading to an abundance of opportunities!