Conquering our fears is something that tends to be easier said than done. After all, fear is a very unpleasant sensation and it is something we cannot escape because it comes from within.
Or does it?
For some people, it comes from their natural fight or flight response from their body. However, some people’s fear comes from external factors such as other people’s opinions and things that have happened in their lives.
So, what are the things that scare you most in life? I’m not asking for the obvious answers such as fearing the consequences of falling off of a building as that would simply be natural fear. I’m talking about the things you fear on a daily basis that cause negative impacts in your life.
For example, as strange as it may sound, some people actually fear success. Therefore, they go through day after day, year after year seemingly involuntarily destroying their own lives.
Other people may fear love which usually causes them to push others away on a regular basis. This makes forming a healthy relationship or creating a family nearly impossible. Let’s be honest, we all want love and we all want to share our love, how would this be possible for a person who is afraid of it?
Now that you understand the type of fears I am talking about, let me ask again, what are your biggest fears in life?
No matter if you have a fear of love, success or any other type of fear that seems to have a lock on your life, there is good news! It is possible to break free from fear and once again reclaim control of your life!
The first step is going to be determining the root of your fear. This is a process that is easy for some people and very difficult for others. For example, a woman who was beaten would have a very easy time determining the reason for her fear of love. On the other hand, a person with less obvious causes for their fears may have to do some serious soul searching. For example, a person with low self-esteem or fear of success may have had issues when they were a child.
The next step on the journey to reclaiming your life would be to determine if that fear is legitimate or not. More often than not, analyzing fear proves that there is really nothing to be afraid of.
The next step would be to design a plan to conquer your fear or fears. Make sure to make this plan very detailed and include more than one option in it so that you never find yourself backed into a corner.
In your plan, I suggest you include daily affirmations that are geared toward whatever your fears may be. For example, if you have a fear of success you may want to use and affirmation such as, “I deserve success, I am a good person and I will make something of myself!” If you are afraid of love, you may want to use an affirmation such as, “I am a good person with lots of love to offer and I know there is someone who will love me to!”
The best part about affirmations is the fact that they can be shaped for any fear. Therefore, no matter what it is that is holding you back in life, there is an affirmation for it. On top of that, they are extremely effective as well as very simple to do.
The next step happens to be one that makes people cringe from time to time. As hard as it may be, you will need to get your feet wet and dabble a little bit in your fear. Basically, the more we expose ourselves to our fears, the less fearful we will eventually become to them. Think of a movie that scared the pants off of you the first time you saw it and then eventually became just another movie, it’s the same idea.
However, when exposing yourself to your fears, it is extremely important that you take thinks at a slow pace and ensure that you do not overwhelm yourself. While fear is conquerable, it can cause some real issues in our lives if we try to win the battle to quickly.
If at any time during your journey to a fear-free life you become hesitant or overwhelmed by fear, think of times in the past that you conquered fear. For example, the first time you rode a bike or drove a car. For most people, this experience involved a lot of fear but eventually became something that is second nature.
You have the power to overcome and conquer your fears! Just take the necessary steps at your own pace. Remember, even baby steps are steps in the right direction!
Here is another tool to help you overcome limiting beliefs.
